The primary time I set my eyes on the image of the stunning Preet Nagar lady was method again in 1978 when, passionate about the love and legend of Punjabi poet, the late Shiv Batalvi, a good friend and I made a decision to jot down a e-book on his life and occasions. We have been visiting his spouse Arun and he or she was displaying us the album that held recollections of her husband. She stopped at a web page with a black and white portrait of a comely lady. Earlier than we might ask, Arun mentioned with half a smile: “She is Anu, Shiv’s good friend”. We didn’t ask for extra as a result of the legend was well-known, as have been the gorgeous songs the poet wrote pining for her: Ik kurhi jida naam mohabbat gum hai (A woman named Love is misplaced), or Primary ik shikra yaar banaya
(I made a fowl of prey my good friend) and lots of others.
This month when Anusuya, the youngest daughter of the famed literary doyen Gurbaksh Singh Preetlari, handed away on the ripe age of 84, a pandora’s field of the whys and hows of the rumoured romance opened.
Hypothesis then began a couple of seemingly Kaidon (villain within the people saga of Heer-Ranjha) who might have extinguished the flame. It began with a small, well-intended edit in Kitab Trinjan, a literary and cultural website for the 2 Punjabs of the subcontinent. The title of the quick tribute learn: Anusuya, the ‘old flame’ of Shiv Kumar passes away. A number one Punjab paper picked it up together with the reactions of the relations to the Fb put up. Anusuya’s nephew dismissed it as “extra of a fantasy created by Shiv”.
Notes of Love: Poet Shiv Kumar Batalvi.
Poonam Singh, editor of Preetlari got here ahead with a extra convincing opinion primarily based on woman-to-woman conversations with the aunt, stating Anusuya did admit to a ardour for the poet, including, “No, Shiv didn’t create a fantasy, however ought to have been extra sporting maybe, positively he was harm and felt unhappy.”
“If a author falls in love with you, you’ll be able to by no means die,” is a quotable quote by American writer Mik Everett. Thus this misplaced lady named Love lived within the collective consciousness of the Punjabi literati all these years and her passing away introduced alive the romance which lots of Shiv’s followers angrily mentioned was nipped within the bud.
Nonetheless, household sources affirm that seeing the budding ardour the daddy requested her if she needed to marry Shiv and Anu, as she was known as, declined regardless of the fervour. As she mirrored later: “I couldn’t see myself as his spouse”. The daddy then suggested her to focus on her research. Poonam says with reverence to Gurbaksh Singh: “This was not a Jatt household nor had the Jatt angle for his or her daughters and daughters-in-law. He stood by all his ladies.”
However there may be extra to Anusuya than simply this story of younger romance. She was a pupil from the primary batch of the Patrice Lumumba Peoples’ Friendship College of Russia (PFU) in 1960. The PFU was established in 1960 to supply increased training to Third World college students. In college, she fell in love with Raul Jesus Estevez Laprea, who was finding out physics. In 1965, they moved to Venezuela. Each of them taught in Merida College. She was a well-regarded professor of English and is survived by their two sons and a daughter.
Her story can be incomplete with out the obit notice her eldest son Steve Esteves wrote for her. Commenting on expertise and expertise, he writes: “She wrote completely in 4 alphabets (Sanskrit, Arabic, Cyrillic and Latin), spoke excellent 4 languages (Punjabi, Russian, English and Spanish) and understood others. With love, he writes: “Very hardly ever have I met somebody extra cultured than her. At 15 years I had already needed to learn Anais Nin’s diaries, I knew the story of Henry Miller or Isadora Duncan’s scarf. When at 17 I went to see the good museums in Europe I already knew the work by coronary heart as a result of she instructed me about them.”
The lifetime of Anusuya, the insurgent of the 1950s-60s, was certainly properly lived and he or she visited Shiv’s household after his passing away and in addition in her final journey to the nation. She additionally instructed Poonam that she had named a star after Shiv and gazed at it.
And now, coming to Shiv, our beloved poet, what involves the thoughts is one more quote by the British expatriate novelist Lawrence Durrel within the Alexandria Quartet: “There are solely three issues to be completed with a lady. You’ll be able to love her, undergo for her, or flip her into literature”. Nicely, Shiv did all of the three issues, occurring in life and marrying the amazingly supportive Arun, who lived the function of his spouse with love, siring two pretty youngsters until dying intervened.
That’s how life strikes on and Anusuya’s passing away needs to be remembered fondly as additionally Shiv’s for it was his alternative. We now have all seen the thrill and sorrows of a misplaced love and that is actually no time for quibbles.